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It never gets past flirting, even after marriage.

For the Western woman, Korea contains so much water, but rarely a drop to drink. The average western man in Korea becomes an Asiaphile overnight because Korean women tend to be flirty and appeasing, and they wear tight clothes. Korean men on the other hand are conservative and insecure. They don’t usually want a liberated woman as westerners would perceive it. What they want is a woman willing to work as a full-time mother (full-time by Korean standards would be triple-time by western standards).

Rumor has it that women do have alternative options. Some young college boys moonlight in coffee houses catering to women looking for a fling. These can be found on the outskirts of any town, where the lights are flashing and the women are flocking. It’s best to visit one of these surreptitious little coffee shops with a Korean girlfriend because they’ll know best how to find them.

Although the demographics are changing, for the most part Korean girls won’t put out until married unless they’re prostitutes. From my experiences (my wife is Korean) the married women don’t put out a whole lot either. This does not mean Korean women don’t flirt. They all flirt. From middle school up to grannies, expect them to tell you how handsome you are, how strong, pet your hand and stroke your hair. They may tell you you’re fat-but-cute, and that large hips (meaning your ass) are glamorous. But it all stops with words. Korean girls might be interested in an occasional session of heavy kissing and hugging, but it’s also not so rare to get one in the sack only to find out she’s what? Another virgin!

This is not to say foreign guys have no chance in Korea. The unspoken law for western men trying to get sex is look for the girl who is smoking. This means she’s a rebel. Ask her about her father. If the father is out of the picture, usually passed away, then this girl has no leash and can do  what she wants. Hopefully what she wants to do is you. Korean women who do get into relationships are usually seeking husbands. Rumor has it that Western men occasionally cook, clean, come home early at night and even play with their kids. And of course they’re exotic. Some Korean girls would have you believe all western men look like either Brad Pitt or Fred Flintstone.

Korean men on the other hand work ungodly hours, stay up late with their coworkers drinking (it’s sometimes mandatory to drink with your boss) and so come home drunk and exhausted. They work Saturdays and sometimes Sundays. Korean men between the ages of 30 and 50 are not usually much fun. They wait until retirement for that.

Mike Best